If you’ve ever thought,
“I don’t know what to say,”
you’re not alone — and it’s not about creativity.

Strong first messages aren’t clever.
They’re intentional.

What most people get wrong

  • Starting with “Hey” and hoping for the best
  • Overthinking the perfect opener
  • Trying to be funny without context

These approaches place pressure on the other person — and usually stall the conversation before it starts.

What makes a message work

Good openers do one thing well:
They show interest with awareness.

That means:

  • Referencing something specific on their profile
  • Asking a question that invites a real response
  • Keeping the tone natural and low-pressure

Examples of effective openers

  • “This photo feels like a story — where was it taken?”
  • “Your bio made me curious — what got you into that?”
  • “Quick question: are you more spontaneous or planned?”

Notice none of these try to impress.
They create space for connection.

Why this works

People respond when they feel seen, not impressed.

Presence always beats performance.

Final thought

You don’t need the perfect line.
You need clarity, intention, and awareness.